tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post1388901890075506305..comments2024-02-23T08:34:49.655-08:00Comments on My Tango Diaries: Tango Husbands, again . . .Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-45700852194811101182010-10-21T08:53:19.470-07:002010-10-21T08:53:19.470-07:00@londontango - I think you've got the right id...@londontango - I think you've got the right idea, "trusty regulars" indeed. :)<br /><br />@Tango Therapist - While I agree completely that the analogy has its limits and risks in that regard (and I've probably taken it further out of Pantina's original tongue-in-cheek context), the words "milonguera" and "milonguero" have their own limits (and for some people, their own baggage.) <br /><br />After all milonguero/a was not always, and for some still is not, a complimentary term. It implies that one's life revolves around the milonga world and (traditionally) doesn't speak to how that person views their connection(s) to their partners - only to their connection to, and experience in, the milonga life. I would find no objection in the term because so much of my life, for better or worse, revolves around the milonga schedule. That's the place I got to feel renewed. <br /><br />Perhaps it is simply too difficult a thing to put into words. You're right that for those who enjoy that connection to other dancers, it's an intensity and intimacy that comes without the need of possession or guarantees. It's in the moment and the moment is all it has to be, because we (hopefully) give everything we have to every moment - preferably in life, not just in tango.Marikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14195873941515232734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-72321149827886098862010-10-20T21:03:13.772-07:002010-10-20T21:03:13.772-07:00Mari... I think the analogy is problematic. I am n...Mari... I think the analogy is problematic. I am not a prude. The connection I feel with a small group of women is intense, intimate, wonderful. But "husband/wife," "concubine," "lover," "friend," etc. do not help us to understand the beauty of tango relationships. Also husbands and friends will only have more to wonder about, to be jealous about. True tangueros, I think, know the importance of dancing in the community of dancers. They do not try to possess their friend / lover / husband like non-dancers do. Maybe we most need better words. I am making this up just now: "Mi tanguero" is someone you see as a regular, great dance partner. "Mi Milonguero" is a person who holds you like a woman should be held and you feel that he does not judge you, control you, wish to change you. He dances with an embrace that rarely loses its complete connection as if he cannot live without you. I wish you many Milongueros in your life, mi Milonguera! Así es la vida de tango: una esperanza que yo no sea el milonguero único que tengas.Tango Therapisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12548118004604256736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-92140229376796946272010-10-15T09:21:28.553-07:002010-10-15T09:21:28.553-07:00well, I frankly don't know what the issue was ...well, I frankly don't know what the issue was that you felt you needed to remove the post. Glad you put it back. I read her post too and thought it was amusing with insights.<br />I just call them my trusty regulars. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com