tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post646147900983295360..comments2024-02-23T08:34:49.655-08:00Comments on My Tango Diaries: The Dance PartnerMarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-24309657135292265742012-03-03T11:28:25.549-08:002012-03-03T11:28:25.549-08:00Hi Mari,
I too think a regular dance partner is h...Hi Mari,<br /><br />I too think a regular dance partner is hugely helpful in tango. Having one doesn't mean you can't/don't dance with anyone else. Unfortunately I've not had one for almost two years and my tango has suffered as a result.<br /><br />I'm glad you're finding an unexpected health benefit to having a regular dance partner. Long may it continue.<br /><br />As for the mean/suspicious minded individuals - screw 'em!<br /><br />Oh, and the dance Ghost called Ceroc is not actually called Ceroc; it is Modern Jive. Ceroc is a franchise which teaches modern jive.Markhttp://walkjivefly.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-5769645086423150862012-03-02T11:47:02.483-08:002012-03-02T11:47:02.483-08:00I also have a 'walking pain killer' partne...I also have a 'walking pain killer' partner, who also happens to be my partner in life too. I realise I'm lucky beyond all reasonable expectations. On the occasions when our dance together has come unstuck, it's like being stabbed through the heart with a stiletto.<br /><br />I'm sure we're both better dancers with other people because we have this rock to depend on in each other.doornailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06612218897926267466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-56091136649938800162012-03-02T10:49:38.989-08:002012-03-02T10:49:38.989-08:00What you write makes perfect sense to me - like at...What you write makes perfect sense to me - like at other times before, Mari. Even though I have not been as lucky as you in finding a "walking pain killer" - not yet. That sounds almost too good to be true. :) <br />I have practiced regularly with the same partner for many years - and it improved my dancing with other men, too, mainly because the regular practice improved my self-conficence as a dancer. In fact, it was much more helpful than taking classes with teachers. <br />It is such a pleasure to read your blog. Thank you!Cinderellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-4603343843268875142012-03-01T20:31:43.801-08:002012-03-01T20:31:43.801-08:00Hello, Mari. In the Philippines, we start out with...Hello, Mari. In the Philippines, we start out with a dance instructor or DI who is usually our constant partner for ballroom dancing, even tango.<br />It makes for faster learning of all the dances, as well as enjoyment.<br />There is no misconception of romance or anything else fishy going on. Just a normal procedure among the ballroom community in this part of the world.<br />I too have progressed from dancing only with my tango teacher and one or two regular DIs who know my moves. <br />After a short respite from dancing, I jumped into the ballroom ready to tango and voila! It seemed I had retained all the good lessons and gotten rid of some major hang-ups about my tango.<br />I could follow the leader, whether beginner or expert, and I was actually light on my feet, despite gaining some [actually a LOT] pounds. Most importantly, I was having so much fun dancing the tango.<br />One month after going back to the dance floor, I seem to have found a partner who is expert enough to keep leading me through the dance, and yet open enough to learn with me. <br />Having a dance partner is a given for serious dance enthusiasts here. If it works for you there, I believe the expression is CARPE DIEM --- Seize the day!!!<br />Have fun and tango to your heart's delight!<br />Triccie <br />P.S. My own tango experiences start here<br />http://tinyurl.com/7a6dblu<br />P.P.S. Thank you for inspiring me to start writing about my tango again.Libreriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07942078797217859974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-25842752832654109502012-03-01T16:14:55.195-08:002012-03-01T16:14:55.195-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Ghostnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-32107591260129368072012-03-01T13:48:41.686-08:002012-03-01T13:48:41.686-08:00ghost,
Thank you so much for your comments - I al...ghost,<br /><br />Thank you so much for your comments - I always look forward to hearing from you. (btw, I have a question about taxi-dancing for you that might take a bit too much space for this blog, would you mind emailing me at infinitetango(at)gmail(dot)com?)<br /><br />You're right as far as the "in synch" thing goes. I didn't realize how much energy I use when I can't get in synch - until I suddenly didn't need to expend any. It was just there. I try never to take it for granted. We all have off nights so I try to come to every dance ready to do whatever it takes to make the connection work. And I also don't want it to sound like my partner is the only leader I love dancing with - because that's absolutely not true. What has happened however, through practicing with him, is that I'm finding it easier and easier to relax and connect with other leaders. I'm not needing the "reset" as desperately as before. Again, I don't really understand the mechanism - it just works. At this point I'm afraid that (over)analyzing it will ruin it. So I'm just grateful - for him, and for all the leaders that are so patient and careful with me.<br /><br />As to the romance issue, the main point I get reminded of, like I would somehow forget, is that I am married (and he is not). Most of the time, I blow it off because people are going to think what they want and there's damned little I can do about it anyway.<br /><br />I'm sorry to hear you don't get to dance with your former partner anymore. I try to take everyone moment as it comes and not think about the fiuture, but I'd be lying if I didn't say that sometimes I wonder what I'll do if or when my situation changes.<br /><br />un grande abrazo, ghost - and many happy tandas.Marikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14195873941515232734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-77243627685945990272012-03-01T09:08:58.411-08:002012-03-01T09:08:58.411-08:00Yay!
There's a dance called Ceroc which has t...Yay!<br /><br />There's a dance called Ceroc which has taxi dancers; the idea is slowly appearing in tango. The deal is that in exchange for free entry, once every couple of weeks they spend the first few hours of the evening only dancing with beginners. Indeed they wear t-shirts to identify them and beginners are told to ask them to dance and everyone else is told they're off-limits during this time. <br /><br />It _seems_ like a good idea. Unless you're a woman. Then it usually means you get to spend several hours beginning pulled and yanked around. At the end of their shift when I'd dance with them, they were tense and stiff from protecting themselves.<br /><br />So we came up with a solution. Every few dances they'd have one dance with me. It reset them, helped them be better with the beginners and meant they were ok when their shift ended. <br /><br />---<br /><br />There's a subtlty in dance that I suspect is applying to you. To really relax needs someone who moves in sync with you. The further out of sync they are, the more you have to compensate and that normally means tension. When you dance with good dancer that tension can be quite subtle, but it's amazing what can still be there.<br /><br />My guess from what you're saying is that you've found such a person. I used to say about one lady that I could dance with her through an earthquake. I once went to a venue where the floor was so ridiculously slick I could barely walk on it, let alone dance. I had one dance, with her. <br /><br />---<br /><br />What you're saying makes perfect sense to me. <br /><br />---<br /><br />As far as romance is concerned, quite frankly unless the people asking want to go out with either you or him, it's none of their business. End Of. <br /><br />Personally I'd file it under "Things you have to experience to understand". They haven't and they don't. That's not your problem.<br /><br />One other thing. Enjoy this! The lady I mentioned moved away and I don't dance Ceroc anymore. I miss dancing with her. <br /><br />(One day I will actuallly post a short answer on a blog, one day...)Ghostnoreply@blogger.com