tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post6614483085821758981..comments2024-02-23T08:34:49.655-08:00Comments on My Tango Diaries: Tango solidarity when it counts . . .Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-4748877598210145172010-01-31T09:12:06.705-08:002010-01-31T09:12:06.705-08:00Those rules are appalling. So basically what they ...Those rules are appalling. So basically what they really mean is, unless you have a partner or male friends who dance tango (but clearly not at that venue on a regular basis) you are not welcome? <br />If I was a guy turning up to a place like that and expected to be a Tangeisha I wouldn't go back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-83871066972560039422010-01-16T02:30:26.191-08:002010-01-16T02:30:26.191-08:00Interesting post. I am a great believer of social...Interesting post. I am a great believer of social networking at the Milongas here in London. After all, you gotta talk to someone in between dances. I also think you get a more intelligent conversation with a woman and they have been very good at recommending (or not) leaders.<br />Saying that, I always was available to dance. It was early days.<br />Now when I go out, I am still sociable, but my priority is dancing as I don't go out so often. Mi Amor would happily go with me to a milonga, but I really don't want him with me as he doesn't dance and a part of me feels responsible for him even though he is ok with it. It hampers my style on getting dances. I have generally gone alone and come home alone. When I briefly dated another Tango dancer, the rules of engagement were that we danced the first and last Tandas with each other and maybe some in-between, otherwise we did our own thing. As there are no allocated seats in the milongas in London (not enough), people tend to flit around and will blag an empty seat when someone gets up to dance.<br />People should take responsibility for getting their own dances, but there is no reason not to be friendly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-44422239734713942622010-01-12T08:41:52.344-08:002010-01-12T08:41:52.344-08:00I really like your ideas on sisterhood at milongas...I really like your ideas on sisterhood at milongas, but solidarity is something we think we exercise until our own needs get in the way. Having read your post I'll certainly make a concerted effort to foster my friendships off the dance floor while still seeking connections on it. A bit too late for a new year's resolution, but it's never to late to learn.tangopassionistahttp://tangopassionista.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-79510586332996222982010-01-11T06:05:49.874-08:002010-01-11T06:05:49.874-08:00UTT - yep, I've been guilty of chit-chatting a...UTT - yep, I've been guilty of chit-chatting and being nearly impossible to cabeceo - I'm working on that - I promise. :)<br /><br />Jantango - I should have been more clear. I was not at any point referring to milongas in Buenos Aires. Milongas in the US are vastly different - in fact milongas in NYC are very different than the ones in LA. We will never replicate the milongas in BA because the context that those grew from don't exist here. Communities are always going to adapt any inherently social activity to their own community's needs. Maybe if I had 120 different milonga venues to choose from - I wouldn't care one way or another about anyone else's experience. But my community is small - and we all do a lot to be supportive of one another. And of course people don't always get what they want (or the Stones wouldn't have written a song about it) - but that shouldn't preclude being kind to one another.<br /><br />Frances - the milongas that I attend aren't as strictly regimented as they appear to be in Vancouver Island where, if I don't bring a man, I need to bring wine. Nor are they as "cut-throat every woman for herself" as Jantango describes. We're somewhere in between. <br /><br />And you may know what to do to get the dances you want, but a beginner like my friend, does not. I had her approval to give her a little help, so I did. Like I said above, our community is small and if we want to keep it healthy and growing, we can afford to go a little out of our way to be kind to one another.Marihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-52338389501168036172010-01-10T13:03:56.983-08:002010-01-10T13:03:56.983-08:00I could not help but wonder what kind of dance is ...I could not help but wonder what kind of dance is described in the VancouverTango article. It is definitely not Argentine tango as I know it. Tango is not about numbers and quantity. In a milonga no one has a social obligation to dance if he or she does not feel like it, no matter how many people are present, and what the gender ratio is. <br />And I do not want anyone to "stir leaders my way". If I see somebody I want to dance with, I know what to do. :)Frances Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04661376516065335102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-23011559727408026622010-01-10T11:16:38.943-08:002010-01-10T11:16:38.943-08:00In the milongas of BsAs, women are aware that they...In the milongas of BsAs, women are aware that they outnumber the men, so it's even woman for herself. Their attention is on dancing, not on chatting with others. On rare occasions, there are more men but that usually changes in an hour.<br /><br />It's very difficult for Americans to understand the milonga culture in BsAs. It's not about greeting everyone with a kiss or making certain you dance with a quota of newcomers and regulars. It is being in the moment and taking whatever comes; being inspired by the music when you connect with the right partner. The milonga is like life -- you don't always get what you want.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-75031459591421197522010-01-09T06:47:44.143-08:002010-01-09T06:47:44.143-08:00Men appreciate a woman taking care of her friends....Men appreciate a woman taking care of her friends. It's kind of like the middle school moment: "I think Susy would like to dance with you." But let me add a man's perspective: It is frustrating when the girl networking appears more important than dancing -- even at a practica. Put it on pause between songs, ladies, or put a sign on your table -- "please interrupt me if you want to dance with me."Tango Therapisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12548118004604256736noreply@blogger.com