tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post2306569986048853637..comments2024-02-23T08:34:49.655-08:00Comments on My Tango Diaries: From Embrace to Entrega - Feeling the InvitationMarihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-78070483502533015272010-03-12T08:10:20.883-08:002010-03-12T08:10:20.883-08:00This is such a good post. Much of what I feel and ...This is such a good post. Much of what I feel and do you have put into words here. As a leader I often say to the ladies "if you did not follow what the last dancer was doing, then he is at fault" We must learn to be patient and wait for our partner and we must lear to find their level rathere than expecting them to follow all the fancy moves we have learned.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-69444824324599177782010-03-11T17:44:59.771-08:002010-03-11T17:44:59.771-08:00@Game Cat - Mari has part of the answer. You have...@Game Cat - Mari has part of the answer. You have to be patient. But the second part of the equation is that you always have to offer it. Being completely present shouldn't be a "if you do it, I'll do it" proposition. When I enter the embrace, I am in full bloom surrender to my partner and the music, and open to whatever happens between us. More often than not my partner will express surprise at never having felt that before.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-44014642323936605622010-03-11T17:33:36.340-08:002010-03-11T17:33:36.340-08:00@Johanna - thank you so much for your comment. Thi...@Johanna - thank you so much for your comment. This really has been a turning point. It's strange that I feel far less frantic at milongas now - less nervous (most of the time). <br /><br />@GameCat - As I've tried to explain this or talk about this with other followers (and a few leaders) I pretty much get one of two responses - they either know exactly what I'm talking about, or think I've gone nuts. I can't think of any way this could have been explained to me in such a way as to bring me to this point sooner. Does that make sense? You get it when (if) you get it. When it happened a few weeks ago with a gentleman I had danced with several times, I couldn't even express to him what had changed. All I could think (to myself since I didn't want to sound quite so crazy) was, "is this what you've been trying to show me? How could I have missed this for so long?" <br /><br />It's not really a skill. It's not covered in classes. The words we use don't really do it justice. I think that leaders can really only make the invitation and be patient. It's not something we learn "for ourselves" really - sometimes we just have to be in the right place in our mind/heart/soul. Just, for as long as you can, as often as you can, be available.Marihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-53135300183303148902010-03-11T14:43:14.453-08:002010-03-11T14:43:14.453-08:00THIS is what makes the music come fully to life. I...THIS is what makes the music come fully to life. I find very few women do this. Sometimes it takes several times inviting them over time before they respond. They relax into it, almost unwittingly, and then they can hear you sharing the music.<br /><br />My question is, besides just extending the invitation, is there any way the man can encourage the lady to do this? Or must he wait for her to learn this for herself elsewhere?Game Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01195479103119853847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-33628639590161366042010-03-10T17:18:42.441-08:002010-03-10T17:18:42.441-08:00This is SUCH an important lesson - the most import...This is SUCH an important lesson - the most important of all, perhaps. And now is when you're really going to start dancing. I'm so happy for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com