tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post7441920310703160898..comments2024-02-23T08:34:49.655-08:00Comments on My Tango Diaries: Hold me like you mean it.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-48735449709163524162010-01-03T19:29:31.400-08:002010-01-03T19:29:31.400-08:00ad and tangowords - thank you more than I can say ...ad and tangowords - thank you more than I can say for your comments - not just on this post, but on so many others. You keep me dancing and writing. :)Marihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-31948534601906956462009-12-31T05:14:06.358-08:002009-12-31T05:14:06.358-08:00A great post,Mari. Ideally, the embrace is at the ...A great post,Mari. Ideally, the embrace is at the heart of tango. Though offered by the man, I see it as always defined by the woman, and as necessarily fluid in response to the music and the moment. It is founded on trust, acceptance and sensitivity.<br /><br />And I feel Johanna hit it truly when she said, "we are most our selves when we dance."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-36364042640891658172009-12-28T09:01:38.898-08:002009-12-28T09:01:38.898-08:00This entry gave me goosebumps of pleasure - becaus...This entry gave me goosebumps of pleasure - because it told a story of surrender, but also because it reminds me of everything we practice in yoga.<br /><br />Surrender to your partner to achieve a higher state of connection is much like surrendering your ego to achieve a higher state of self.<br /><br />Perhaps an idea to ruminate upon in my own ramblings. adxxadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16486703627452277170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-90069274160423567602009-12-22T13:31:06.179-08:002009-12-22T13:31:06.179-08:00Alex - look for my email and follow-up post. As us...Alex - look for my email and follow-up post. As usual, my response to your comment started to resemble a thesis.<br /><br />Marty - it's precisely the feeling of hope the experience inspires that keeps us coming back for more and more and trying so hard to inspire it in others. We should gush about that sort of thing every chance we get! :D Merry Christmas to you and yours as well.<br /><br />Johanna - you wrote: "I believe the opposite is true: we are most our selves when we dance." - I think you make an excellent point. I also believe the key may be that the experience of entrega breaks down the rigid barrier we're constantly drawing and redrawing between one another. We are certainly more true to ourselves within that surrender than we can be in our day-to-day culture of "rugged individualism" that makes us feel so isolated.Marihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-65671589642380263452009-12-22T13:19:57.302-08:002009-12-22T13:19:57.302-08:00Your story may be cliche, but it is the Mecca for ...Your story may be cliche, but it is the Mecca for which we all strive - that nameless unknown who touches our core for a few moments and then disappears back into life.<br /><br />Although I do disagree with "We aren't precisely ourselves when we dance". I believe the opposite is true: we are most our selves when we dance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-1779736102454856492009-12-22T13:19:47.833-08:002009-12-22T13:19:47.833-08:00Your story may be cliche, but it is the Mecca for ...Your story may be cliche, but it is the Mecca for which we all strive - that nameless unknown who touches our core for a few moments and then disappears back into life.<br /><br />Although I do disagree with "We aren't precisely ourselves when we dance". I believe the opposite is true: we are most our selves when we dance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-61188040351258104592009-12-22T08:39:54.477-08:002009-12-22T08:39:54.477-08:00Hi Mari....to feel that type of embrace,totally su...Hi Mari....to feel that type of embrace,totally surrender myself and get lost in the energy re-enforces my beliefs in mankind,love and myself and gives me hope<br /> ...embrace,clarity,focus,love...to be worked on in the moment and many lifetimes and that I can use dance as a teacher even better....you got me gushing Mari...Merry Christmas to you and your family!xoMartynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-66399935649070179012009-12-22T03:08:32.773-08:002009-12-22T03:08:32.773-08:00Hola Mari!
I'm glad to see you gravitating to...Hola Mari!<br /><br />I'm glad to see you gravitating to close embrace/estilo milonguero. There are many tango communities where the overwhelming majority of followers prefer (demand?) this style - Aspen, Denver, San Diego, Atlanta, Portland. As I think of the places where I have danced, it's pretty much this way everywhere outside of Texas. Also, obviously it's this way in Buenos Aires as well.<br /><br />For me (and you allude to this in your post), it' not "just" the physical attributes and geometry of the embrace, there is also the psycho-emotional-energetic aspect that I refer to as "the surrender".<br /><br />Here are a couple of my posts on the subject. I've written more - this subject is the core tenet of my blog - but I can't recall/find it all - it's all buried so deep. Much of it is under "the perfection of the perfect connection". <br /><br /><a href="http://alextangofuego.blogspot.com/2007/11/tango-surrender.html" rel="nofollow">"The Surrender"</a><br /><br /><a href="http://alextangofuego.blogspot.com/2007/11/tangothe-surrender-follow-up.html" rel="nofollow">"The Surrender [Follow-up]"</a><br /><br />Also, the photo credit goes to Lalo de Almeida. The photo headlined the New York Times article <a href="http://travel.nytimes.com/2008/03/16/travel/16buenos.html?scp=3&sq=argentine%20nights&st=tcse" rel="nofollow">"Argentine Nights"</a> by Denny Lee back on March 16, 2008.<br /><br />Lastly, here is another photograph showing the same type of embrace, with 'the surrender' in full force and effect. I know this because...well, you might recognize the leader...I was on the receiving end of it...<br /><br /><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/tangofuego/755417744/in/set-72157600024970009/" rel="nofollow">"Click here for a Flickr redirect..."</a><br /><br />Hope to see you out dancing, and actually dance together, one of these days.<br /><br />Happy holidays to you and yours!<br /><br />AlexAlexTangoFuegohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13021896615610939454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-91409395675124413432009-12-21T21:50:30.809-08:002009-12-21T21:50:30.809-08:00Mark and Pete - every time I accept a dance, I str...Mark and Pete - every time I accept a dance, I struggle to release myself into the embrace. I learned that waiting for a partner to "earn it" never really works (though it feels more logical) because if both partners are waiting, then neither relaxes. I can't manage it every time, but when I am able, I trust first. I don't wait. <br /><br />We have only a few minutes to give everything we have and see where it takes us - or face an eternity of wondering if we should have offered more.Marihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08960763038363579526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-4185101704567469102009-12-21T21:29:12.209-08:002009-12-21T21:29:12.209-08:00Was I going to fall into the abrazo - or maintain ...<em>Was I going to fall into the abrazo - or maintain pressure against his arm?</em><br /><br />Mari, I feel this a lot when I embrace a partner. It feels like sometimes the women are doing vertical pushups!<br /><br />What I mean by that is when you do pushups, there are 3 phases of the movement: top, middle, and bottom.<br /><br />I've encountered Tango embraces that feel like I'm the floor and she's doing pushups on me.<br /><br />Just relinquish the urge to keep your distance and genuinely embrace me. Don't go "Full Metal Jacket" on me :)<br /><br />As always, very vivid writing. I can imagine it and feel like I'm there.<br /><br />Thanks, Mari.Pete | The Tango Notebookhttp://www.tangonotebook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5370884568160752646.post-81734158003763990122009-12-21T19:15:09.656-08:002009-12-21T19:15:09.656-08:00pMari... great entry into your "diary." ...pMari... great entry into your "diary." In a discussion on the phone with Zen Tango author, Chan Parks, we talked about this willingness to be entirely with our partner and the embrace. You summed it up so well. On the other hand, I too often experience a pushing away, as if a warm, loving embrace can only be earned -- some day. If not now, then when? -- con cariño, MarkUnknown Tango Theologianhttp://tango-beat.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com