Apparently the subject of head position came up in a recent class. How do I know - since I wasn't in the class? The same way I find out everything else that happens in the most recent classes and/or workshops - someone instucts me on the milonga floor. Surprisingly, the position of my head had never bothered this particular partner before (we've been dancing together for over 5 months) but because it was addressed in class, it was now an issue.
Fine. Something else for me to be terribly self-conscious about. Have been looking bad all this time?
I normally dance with my head facing over my partner's shoulder, usually slight downward (depending on the height of my leader). Like this (that's actually me in the picture):
Apparently, it's more graceful and appealing to dance like this (from Tangoandcoffee.org):
I can definitely see the difference - it looks like a more confortable alignment for this couple. I'm trying it out more and more - but it simply doesn't work with every partner. Height is an issue - as well as comfort with that partner. With this particular leader it means resting my forehead against his jaw (giving me a very clear view of his adam's apple and very little else).
Janis Kenyon addresses the subject on "A Woman's Approach to Milonguero Style"
In the article she states that there are three acceptable head positions:
"There are three head positions for the lady:
1) your left cheek bone to his right cheek bone (for salon style)
2) your right side of face to his right side of face (for milonguero style)
3) your nose and forehead to the right side of his face (alternatepossibilty for milonguero style)"
I've been dancing 2) and this partner has said that 3) is the preferred style.
There is further exploration on this topic on Tango and Chaos's Embrace Page.
So that is my newest experiment - head position. Which style(s) do you prefer?