“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt
― Eleanor Roosevelt
“Isn't it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?”
― Sean Covey, The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens
― Sean Covey, The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens
I posted this one Facebook in response to a link share, but I think it needs to go here on the blog as well.
The original link on Facebook was to Paul Yang's post on "In Search of Tango", titled, "Why People Quit Tango."
The original link on Facebook was to Paul Yang's post on "In Search of Tango", titled, "Why People Quit Tango."
It was shared by several people, but Shellie Hubbard's comment summed it up beautifully:
"Very short and to the point. A good read for all, but I want to take a moment to address a very small, yet very destructive, segment of our tango society.
So, to you select ladies... Enough with the, "I didn't feel your lead" followed by instruction on the floor garbage. Also, stop leaving the new men to twist on their own while you dance exclusively with the more experienced leads. If you as a lady aren't bringing a lead to the socials, then good God, stop driving away the ones who come on their own or with others. (And stop complaining about how there are "no men." The few in attendance HEAR YOU and wonder why you don't consider them adequate.) If you think I am talking about you, then I probably am! Wake up, honey. You are part of the problem."
Saturday night I heard a woman rant several times about the quality of the leaders in attendance at the milonga. These weren't floorcraft observations of collisions or that sort of thing. Her comments were harsh, bordering on cruel - and loud enough for me to hear as I passed by with my partner on the ronda.
Later I heard from one of the leaders who was the subject of her rant. He, and others around him, were also affected by her words. So I wasn't the only one who'd heard her.